Your Identity Isn’t Fixed. It’s Running a System

Most people think their identity is made of fixed truths, personality traits, tendencies, behaviors they’ve had “forever.” But what if that identity is just a system?

What if it’s made of parts, each running their role, playing out loops you didn’t ...

You're Reacting to Meaning, Not Reality

Most of us think we’re responding to life as it is.

We feel busy, upset, ignored, judged, and we assume those feelings are facts. That the situation itself is causing our reaction.

But that’s not what’s really happening.

What you’re actually responding to ...

A Holiday Gift to Yourself... Do You Hold On Too Tightly?

The holiday season often comes with a whirlwind of expectations and plans. Whether it’s hosting the perfect gathering, buying ideal gifts, or making sure everyone is happy, the pressure to have everything under control can feel overwhelming...

In today's fast-paced world, self-control is a critical skill that often eludes us. Whether it's resisting the lure of social media, avoiding that extra slice of cake, or sticking to long-term goals, impulse control is often a daily battle. Our brains are wired to seek instant gratification, making ...

Self-control is more than just resisting temptations. It's about mastering your impulses and aligning your actions with your deeper values and long-term goals. Understanding and managing the impulses that drive your behavior is key to achieving this harmony.

Self-Control and Identity

Your identity...

Our "story of self" is a concept that’s created within the construct of time. It can be useful, but when we get lost in it, the "self" starts to make us feel like there’s no freedom of choice or free will.

Do you feel like you desire change, but your behavior is out of your control? If you do...

Balancing the desire for instant gratification is a crucial skill. We’re not going to be successful if we live in the “extremes.” Sustainability is the key.

There are obvious issues with over indulging in instant gratification. But what’s the danger in landing too hard on the other side? What ha...

Are you struggling to match the things you know you should be doing to the the actions you’re actually taking? If so, you might need some help.

We want to help you grow your self control, strengthen good habits, and achieve more. This episode talks about how to get past the desire of doing wh...