In a Psychology Today article, Dr. Gregg Henriques delves into the concept of the "identity matrix," drawing from my experiences and work to illustrate how our internal lenses shape our perceptions and experiences, often limiting our potential without us even realizing it.

Gregg and I have often...

Understanding Perfectionism

Perfectionism is the relentless pursuit of flawlessness, often accompanied by self-critical thoughts and high expectations. While striving for excellence can be motivating, perfectionism can become a significant barrier to success and well-being. This internal struggle...

We've all experienced rough patches, missed promotions, personal setbacks, or days when nothing goes right. Consider two individuals facing a job loss: one feels crushed and struggles to move forward, while the other sees it as an opportunity to pivot into a new career. The difference lies in...

In the previous post, we explored the core elements of identity—set points, psychological lenses, and patterns of behavior—that shape your subjective experience and influence your ability to maintain self-control, discipline, and focus.

Now, let's delve into practical strategies for...

Your identity shapes every part of your life, from your decisions to your relationships. It forms your "self-concept," a mix of beliefs, memories, and expectations that guide your actions and color your view of the world.

Understanding and addressing meaningful change requires examining three...

Understanding the Role of Beliefs in Our Lives

Beliefs are fundamental to our existence. They shape our perceptions, drive our behaviors, and influence our emotions. Everyone has a set of core beliefs that act as lenses through which they view the world. These beliefs are formed by our...

Take a moment to reflect on the days filled with either/or choices. It often feels like we're choosing between what we want to do and what we should do. For example, the early morning run vs. extra work, family gatherings vs. office deadlines.

These moments echo a zero-sum mindset, where gains in...

Discover how to harness the power of thought for personal transformation. Learn to differentiate thought from experience, understand their impact, and employ strategies to control and shift thought patterns for a fulfilling life.

Our thoughts shape our reality, influencing our feelings and...

Emotions are powerful forces that shape our thoughts, behaviors, and overall well-being. Understanding what emotions are, how they connect to our thoughts and behaviors, and learning to achieve emotional intelligence can lead to better impulse control and a more fulfilling life. Let's explore the...