What if the discomfort you’re feeling isn’t a sign you’re failing, but proof that you’re evolving?

Transformation is messy, awkward, and even painful. But in that discomfort lies the undeniable evidence that you’re breaking free from the old and stepping into the new.

Reinventing yourself isn’t a ...

The Familiar Sting of Failure

Picture this: you’ve poured months into preparing for a big opportunity—one that could change everything. The stakes feel monumental. Then, the email comes. It’s another rejection. Your chest tightens as you reread the words, each one reinforcing the gnawing belief yo...

Mental resilience is often seen as a rare trait, but it’s something we can all develop.

The key lies in how we frame adversity. Instead of viewing challenges as setbacks, consider them opportunities for growth. This perspective shift transforms obstacles into stepping stones, enabling us to build s...

Life is full of challenges and setbacks. Whether it’s a personal loss, a professional failure, or any unexpected hurdle, these setbacks can be disheartening and difficult to overcome. Developing a resilient mindset is crucial for navigating these obstacles and emerging stronger.

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In a Psychology Today article, Dr. Gregg Henriques delves into the concept of the "identity matrix," drawing from my experiences and work to illustrate how our internal lenses shape our perceptions and experiences, often limiting our potential without us even realizing it.

Gregg and I have often di...

Understanding Perfectionism

Perfectionism is the relentless pursuit of flawlessness, often accompanied by self-critical thoughts and high expectations. While striving for excellence can be motivating, perfectionism can become a significant barrier to success and well-being. This internal struggle m...

We've all experienced rough patches, missed promotions, personal setbacks, or days when nothing goes right. Consider two individuals facing a job loss: one feels crushed and struggles to move forward, while the other sees it as an opportunity to pivot into a new career. The difference lies in resili...

As the creator of Identity Shifting, my journey is deeply rooted in understanding the intricate web of meaning and beliefs that shape our lives.

Like so many of us, I've faced formidable challenges: abuse, addiction, homelessness, and cancer (just to name some).

I'm lucky because my transformation...

What is Your Identity?

Your identity shapes every aspect of your existence, from the decisions you make to the relationships you nurture. It forms your "self-concept," a mix of your beliefs, memories, and expectations that guide your actions and color your perceptions of the world.

These elements,...