In a Psychology Today article, Dr. Gregg Henriques delves into the concept of the "identity matrix," drawing from my experiences and work to illustrate how our internal lenses shape our perceptions and experiences, often limiting our potential without us even realizing it.

Gregg and I have often...

Do you ever feel paralyzed by the fear of failing, avoiding risks and new opportunities because you’re scared of the outcome? Or perhaps you feel like time is slipping away, and you’re running out of time to achieve your dreams? This fear, combined with the relentless "treadmill of...

Understanding Perfectionism

Perfectionism is the relentless pursuit of flawlessness, often accompanied by self-critical thoughts and high expectations. While striving for excellence can be motivating, perfectionism can become a significant barrier to success and well-being. This internal struggle...

We've all experienced rough patches, missed promotions, personal setbacks, or days when nothing goes right. Consider two individuals facing a job loss: one feels crushed and struggles to move forward, while the other sees it as an opportunity to pivot into a new career. The difference lies in...

Imposter Syndrome is the persistent feeling of being a fraud, despite evident success and accomplishments. Individuals with this syndrome believe they don’t deserve their achievements and fear being exposed as unqualified. This internal struggle can manifest in various aspects of life,...

Codependency is often referred to as the "lost self," where individuals over-rely on external sources, such as relationships, substances, or processes, for their sense of identity and self-worth. Typically seen in relationships, codependency blurs personal boundaries and leads to unhealthy...

In the previous post, we explored the core elements of identity—set points, psychological lenses, and patterns of behavior—that shape your subjective experience and influence your ability to maintain self-control, discipline, and focus.

Now, let's delve into practical strategies for...

Your identity shapes every part of your life, from your decisions to your relationships. It forms your "self-concept," a mix of beliefs, memories, and expectations that guide your actions and color your view of the world.

Understanding and addressing meaningful change requires examining three...

Understanding the Role of Beliefs in Our Lives

Beliefs are fundamental to our existence. They shape our perceptions, drive our behaviors, and influence our emotions. Everyone has a set of core beliefs that act as lenses through which they view the world. These beliefs are formed by our...