Ever wondered why personal growth feels so daunting for some?

It's not uncommon for discussions about personal growth to trigger discomfort, especially for those grappling with low self-esteem. Let’s dive into why this happens and how we can navigate this sensitive subject effectively.

People with...

In a Psychology Today article, Dr. Gregg Henriques delves into the concept of the "identity matrix," drawing from my experiences and work to illustrate how our internal lenses shape our perceptions and experiences, often limiting our potential without us even realizing it.

Gregg and I have often di...

We've all experienced rough patches, missed promotions, personal setbacks, or days when nothing goes right. Consider two individuals facing a job loss: one feels crushed and struggles to move forward, while the other sees it as an opportunity to pivot into a new career. The difference lies in resili...

In the previous post, we explored the core elements of identity—set points, psychological lenses, and patterns of behavior—that shape your subjective experience and influence your ability to maintain self-control, discipline, and focus.

Now, let's delve into practical strategies for shifting these ...

Your identity shapes every part of your life, from your decisions to your relationships. It forms your "self-concept," a mix of beliefs, memories, and expectations that guide your actions and color your view of the world.

Understanding and addressing meaningful change requires examining three core ...

Take a moment to reflect on the days filled with either/or choices. It often feels like we're choosing between what we want to do and what we should do. For example, the early morning run vs. extra work, family gatherings vs. office deadlines.

These moments echo a zero-sum mindset, where gains in o...

As the creator of Identity Shifting, my journey is deeply rooted in understanding the intricate web of meaning and beliefs that shape our lives.

Like so many of us, I've faced formidable challenges: abuse, addiction, homelessness, and cancer (just to name some).

I'm lucky because my transformation...

How to Escape the "Human Condition"

The human condition is often defined by our common struggles like loneliness, fear, and a persistent feeling of not being "there" yet. You might accept these challenges as inevitable, part of life’s default setting.

This acceptance often manifest in endless self...